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2018 Memorial Service Gallery

The selection of photos below are from the December 6, 2018 Memorial Service for Victims of Violence held at the Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor). Thanks to everyone who attended the service and participated in the 2018 Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence.

We remember 1989
29 Years Since the Montreal Massacre

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Be Ready to Prevent Violence Against Women – Time to Step Up/Soyons prêts à prévenir la violence faite aux femmes. Il est temps de faire sa part.

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December 6, 2018

Another year has passed since the terrible massacre that took place at l’Ecole Polytechnique in Montreal on December 6, 1989. Twenty-nine years ago. On that sad day, 14 women were killed during a mass shooting because of their gender. That day marks a historic moment, the beginning of focused efforts against violence against women in Canada and the origin of the Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence Against Women. Since that day, 10 women on Prince Edward Island have been murdered, telling us there is more work to do.

Every year the PEI Advisory Council for the Status of Women leads the Purple Ribbon Campaign. The theme this year is that it is “Time to Step Up” and be ready to prevent violence against women. As always, the questions arise. When is the right time to step up? What is the best way to help that will make a difference?

Last year’s Purple Ribbon Campaign asked us to “stand with” victims of violence. “Standing with” means being there to listen and to believe, then to act whenever we suspect acts of violence are being committed – but always with precautions for our own safety.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign this year reminds us to be more observant, to learn how to be ready to help. One part of being ready is being able to recognize risk factors involved with future violence. Knowing the signs to look for could save a life.

If we worry someone may act violent towards a partner, we can prevent harm by knowing and looking for risk factors of violence. Has this person used violence in the past? Has the violence become more frequent? Has the person ignored or broken a court order to stay away from a person or place? Has the person made threats? Does the person have access to weapons? Pending or recent separations can be a risk factor for violence. A history of alcohol or drug usage, obsessive behaviour, depression, or threatened or attempted suicide can be risk factors, especially in combination with other factors.

If we know someone whom we think is in danger, we need to step up and be there for that person and to let them know we are there for them.

Violence has already caused too much grief in our modern-day society, where it has almost become a norm. This year in Canada, at least 131 women have been murdered and more have gone missing. The number of dead increases every few days. In most of these murders, the women’s gender – the simple fact they were women – was a factor in their deaths. The time has come to realize that work against violence that gained attention with the #MeToo movement needs to continue in order for change to happen.

Men have an important part to play in stepping up by speaking up against gender violence and working together to prevent gender violence. We look forward to Family Violence Prevention Week 2019, which will focus on the role men and boys can, and do, play in our society. We hope boys will learn from the role models in their lives that there is no place for messages that demean and objectify women.

Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women. We hope you will wear a purple ribbon during the Purple Ribbon Campaign. It is indeed our turn to step up, listen, and believe. We can be ready to act when we observe risk factors for using violence. We can work to create a world where being a woman or a gender minority is no longer a risk factor for being a victim of violence.

Yvonne Deagle, Chairperson, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

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Le 6 décembre 2018

Une autre année s’est écoulée depuis le terrible massacre dont l’École polytechnique de Montréal a été le théâtre le 6 décembre 1989. Il y a 29 ans. Ce triste jour-là, 14 femmes ont été tuées lors d’une fusillade en raison de leur sexe. Moment historique, cette journée marquera le début d’efforts ciblés contre la violence faite aux femmes au Canada et sera à l’origine de la Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence faite aux femmes. Depuis ce jour, 10 femmes de l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard ont été assassinées, signe que le travail n’est pas terminé.

Chaque année, le Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î.-P.-É. dirige la Campagne du ruban violet. Le thème de cette année est « Il est temps de faire sa part » et d’être prêt à prévenir la violence faite aux femmes. Comme toujours, les questions se posent. Quel est le bon moment d’intervenir? Quelle est la meilleure façon d’aider à changer les choses?

L’an dernier, la Campagne du ruban violet avait pour thème « Soyez là », aux côtés des victimes de violence. « Soyez là » signifie être là pour écouter et croire, puis agir chaque fois que nous soupçonnons la perpétration d’actes de violence, mais toujours avec précaution pour notre propre sécurité.

La Campagne du ruban violet de cette année nous rappelle d’observer davantage, d’être prêts à aider en apprenant comment le faire. Pour cela, il faut, entre autres, savoir reconnaître les facteurs de risque associés à la violence future. Connaître les signes à surveiller pourrait sauver une vie.

Si nous craignons qu’une personne ne commette un acte violent à l’endroit de celle qu’elle fréquente, nous pouvons prévenir cet acte en connaissant et en surveillant les facteurs de risque de violence. Cette personne a-t-elle déjà eu recours à la violence? La violence est-elle devenue plus fréquente? La personne a-t-elle ignoré ou enfreint une ordonnance du tribunal l’obligeant à ne pas s’approcher d’une personne ou d’un lieu? La personne a-t-elle proféré des menaces? La personne a-t-elle accès à des armes? Une séparation imminente ou récente peut être un facteur de risque de violence. Les antécédents de consommation d’alcool ou de drogues, de comportement obsessionnel, de dépression ou de menace ou tentative de suicide peuvent être des facteurs de risque, surtout en combinaison avec d’autres facteurs.

Si nous connaissons quelqu’un qui, selon nous, est en danger, nous devons faire notre part pour cette personne et lui faire savoir que nous sommes là pour elle.

La violence a déjà causé trop de chagrin dans notre société moderne, étant presque devenue une norme. Cette année, au Canada, au moins 131 femmes ont été assassinées et d’autres ont disparu. Le nombre de meurtres de femmes augmente tous les quelques jours. Dans la plupart des cas, le sexe de la victime – le simple fait d’être une femme – a joué un rôle dans son décès. Il est temps de réaliser que le travail contre la violence sur lequel le mouvement #MoiAussi (#MeToo en anglais) a attiré l’attention doit se poursuivre pour que des changements se produisent.

Il est important que les hommes fassent leur part en dénonçant la violence fondée sur le sexe et en travaillant ensemble pour la prévenir. Nous avons hâte qu’ait lieu la Semaine de prévention de la violence familiale 2019, qui mettra l’accent sur le rôle que les hommes et les garçons peuvent jouer, et jouent, dans notre société. Nous espérons que les garçons tireront des leçons des modèles dans leur vie et qu’ils découvriront que les messages qui rabaissent les femmes et les réduisent à l’état d’objets n’ont pas leur place.

Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer afin de prévenir la violence faite aux femmes. Nous espérons que vous porterez un ruban violet durant la Campagne du ruban violet. Il est en effet à notre tour de faire notre part, d’écouter et de croire. Observer les facteurs de risque de violence nous permet d’être prêts à passer à l’action. Nous pouvons travailler à créer un monde où le fait d’être une femme ou d’appartenir à une minorité de genre n’est plus un facteur de risque d’être victime de violence.

Yvonne Deagle, présidente, Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î.-P.-É.

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Memorial Services for Victims of Violence

Time to step up. Be ready to prevent violence against women.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence (Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence) was initiated by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women in 1991 to remember the 14 women who were murdered at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal in December 1989, and to raise awareness about violence against women.

Charlottetown Memorial Service

CHARLOTTETOWN
12:00 noon, Thursday, December 6

Memorial Hall, Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor)
Richmond Street
Charlottetown

29 years after the horrific murder of 14 women at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal, we gather to remember, to mourn, and to work for change. We will be commemorating the young women who died in Montreal and the 10 Island women who have been killed by partners or someone who knew them since 1989. And we will recommit to ending violence against women everywhere.

The special service will include an address by Paxton Caseley of Our Turn; poetry by Lily Lévesque; Mi’kmaw opening prayer with Elder Julie Pellissier-Lush; music by the O Beautiful Gaia singers; and Dylan Menzie accompanying on piano. Family members, dignitaries, and community activists will light candles in remembrance of those whose lives were cut short because they were women. Everyone is welcome to attend.

Contact Michelle at 902-368-4510 / info@peistatusofwomen.ca

– 2018 Purple Ribbon Campaign, blog and website

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Summerside Memorial Service

SUMMERSIDE
12:00 noon, Thursday, December 6
Trinity United Church
90 Spring Street
Guest Speaker: Hon. Tina Mundy
More info: 902-436-9856
East Prince Women’s Information Centre

First mourn, then work for change
We remember 1989

29 Years Since the Montreal Massacre

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2018-2019 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Time to step up. Be ready to prevent violence against women.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence (Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence) was initiated by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women in 1991 to remember the 14 women who were murdered at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal on December 6, 1989, and to raise awareness about violence against women.

Time to step up. Be ready to prevent violence against women. What does it mean to “step up” when we witness situations of violence? We can take actions that may have a huge impact in preventing harm. Everyone who witnesses bullying, abuse, or violence can take responsibility to intervene in some way to make a positive difference. Taking action when we see signs of violence is being ready and stepping up for people who experience violence. Even small actions can make a difference and may even save a life. With every action to help, together, we can build a community ready to step up against violence.

Six steps to taking action when we see signs of abuse or violence
1. Notice that something is happening
2. Recognize signs of abuse or violence in what is happening
3. Take responsibility for providing help
4. Assess safety: the victim’s, the aggressor’s, yours, and others’ nearby
5. Decide how to help in a way that keeps us and the people around us safe
6. Take action to help



Memorial Services for Victims of Violence

December 6 is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women. On and around December 6, candle-lighting services remember 14 young Women who in 1989 were murdered because they were women in what became known as the Montreal Massacre.

We remember ten women since 1989 murdered on Prince Edward Island by men who knew them. Join others in your community to light a candle of remembrance, to remember, to reflect, and to act so these murders end.

First mourn, then work for change
We remember 1989

29 Years Since the Montreal Massacre 

CHARLOTTETOWN
12:00 noon, Thursday, December 6
Memorial Hall, Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor)
Mi’kmaw ceremony & prayers: Elder Julie Pellissier-Lush
Guest Speaker: Paxton Caseley, Our Turn
Poetry by Lily Lévesque
Music: O Beautiful Gaia singers
Music to Accompany Candlelighting: Dylan Menzie (piano)
More info: 902-368-4510
PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

Candles will be lit in commemoration of the 14 women who were murdered in Montreal in 1989 and the 10 Island women who have died at the hands of violent men since that year.
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SUMMERSIDE
12:00 noon, Thursday, December 6
Trinity United Church
90 Spring Street, Summerside
Guest Speaker: Hon. Tina Mundy
More info: 902-436-9856
East Prince Women’s Information Centre

FINAL-2018-montreal massacre invitation


Teachers Resource Guide (Bilingual)
A Feature of the 2018 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Resource Guides
Handouts for Students / Documents à distribuer aux étudiants … PDF
Resources for Teachers / Ressources pour les enseignants … PDF
Resources to print on 11×17″ paper … PDF


Multilingual Poster

Time to step up. Be ready to prevent violence against women.

This year’s multilingual 11”x17” poster highlights the Purple Ribbon Campaign theme “Time to step up. Be ready to prevent violence against women” in English, French, Mi’kmaq, Arabic, Farsi, Mandarin, Nepali, Vietnamese, and Spanish. These represent the founding and most commonly spoken languages of our province. Posters are available by request.  Download printable multilingual poster.

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Bystander Infographic

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English

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French

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Orientation Sheet, 2013, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

Artwork: “Seeds” by Mari Basiletti. This work was commissioned by and hangs in the waiting room of the PEI Rape and Sexual Assault Centre, Charlottetown.


Pinning Bee – Wednesday, November 14, 2018

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An evening pinning bee to prepare ribbons and cards for the 2018-2019 Purple Ribbon Campaign is being hosted by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women, together with the working group planning Family Violence Prevention Week 2019 for the Premier’s Action Committee on Family Violence Prevention. The theme this year is: Time to step up. Be ready to prevent violence against women.

Annually, approximately 17,000 ribbons are cut and pinned to information cards by volunteers and distributed across the Island. The purple ribbons are worn to signify a commitment to remembering the 14 women murdered in Montreal in 1989, a horrific act of gender-based violence in Canadian history. We also wear purple ribbons to honour the memory of the Island women murdered by someone who knew them since 1989. And we wear ribbons to show our support for ending all violence against women in our communities.

  • Join us on Wednesday, November 14 for coffee, tea, snacks and conversation. Everyone welcome.
    6:30 pm – 8:00 pm
    Confederation Centre Public Library
    145 Richmond Street, Charlottetown.

For more information contact the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women at info@peistatusofwomen.ca or 902-368-4510.

To see a few photos from the Pinning Bee, click on this Facebook post link.


Thank You…

Thank you to the 2018 contributors to the Purple Ribbon Campaign for generous assistance. This list will be updated weekly, as contributors are confirmed:

  • Federated Women’s Institutes of PEI
  • Aboriginal Women’s Association
  • Confederation Centre of the Arts – Venue Sponsor
  • Premier’s Action Committee on Family Violence Prevention (PAC)
  • Office of the Premier
  • City of Charlottetown
  • Melissa Coffin, PEI Association for Newcomers to Canada
  • Translators: Thirly Levi (Mi’kmaq), Caitlyn Huynh (Vietnamese), Rocio McCallum (Spanish). Alex Yin (Mandarin Chinese), Krishna K. Thakur (Nepali), Farahnaz Rezaei (Arabic and Farsi) and the Translation | Traduction : Service de traduction du gouvernement de l’Î.-P.-É. (French).
  • Staff at Anderson House, Family Violence Prevention Services
  • Julie MacKay, UPEI student volunteer
  • Members of the public who attended the Pinning Bee
  • Ann Marie, Pat, Brent, and Dan for their tremendous help with our Purple Ribbon mailout
  • Brandy and Conner Beasley, and Maribeth Rogers Neale for assisting with collating and distributing purple ribbons and teachers’ guides
  • Paxton Caseley, guest speaker
  • Lily Lévesque for her poem “The Wolf”
  • O Beautiful Gaia singers
  • Dylan Menzie for piano accompaniment
  • Julie Pellissier-Lush for offering Mi’kmaw prayer
  • Eileen LeClair for bringing the UPSE Silent Witnesses silhouettes
  • Dawn Wilson
  • Lynn MacNeil
  • Dan Lee
  • Michelle Buttery for providing emotional care during the service
  • Interministerial Women’s Secretariat and Hearts & Flowers
  • Advisory Council members
  • Rob Warren and Paul Wood
  • and all of the candle-lighters – family members and friends of murdered PEI women, representatives of organizations working to prevent violence against women, and community leaders/dignitaries

Photos

Pinning Bee volunteers keeping busy at the Pinning Bee at the Confederation Centre Public Library.

Volunteers helping with the annual Purple Ribbon Campaign mailout. Thanks to Pat, Brent, Dan, and Ann Marie (missing from photo).

Click for more on past Purple Ribbon Campaigns.

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2018 Purple Ribbon Pinning Bee

An evening pinning bee to prepare ribbons and cards for the 2018-2019 Purple Ribbon Campaign is being hosted by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women, together with the working group planning Family Violence Prevention Week 2019 for the Premier’s Action Committee on Family Violence Prevention. The theme this year is: Time to step up. Be ready to prevent violence against women.

Annually, approximately 17,000 ribbons are cut and pinned to information cards by volunteers and distributed across the Island. The purple ribbons are worn to signify a commitment to remembering the 14 women murdered in Montreal in 1989, a horrific act of gender-based violence in Canadian history. We also wear purple ribbons to honour the memory of the Island women murdered by someone who knew them since 1989. And we wear ribbons to show our support for ending all violence against women in our communities.

  • Join us on Wednesday, November 14 for coffee, tea, snacks and conversation. Everyone welcome.
    6:30 pm – 8:00 pm
    Confederation Centre Public Library
    145 Richmond Street, Charlottetown.

For more information contact the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women at info@peistatusofwomen.ca or 902-368-4510.

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2017 Memorial Service Gallery

The selection of photos below are from the December 6, 2017 Memorial Service for Victims of Violence held at the Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor). Thanks to everyone who attended the service and participated in the 2017 Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence.

We remember 1989
28 Years Since the Montreal Massacre

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Everyone Has a Part to Play in Preventing Violence Against Women / Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes

Everyone Has a Part to Play in Preventing Violence Against Women

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December 6, 2017

On December 6, 1989, fourteen women who were students at École Polytechnique in Montreal were murdered because they were women. In the days following the Montreal Massacre, vigils were held across Canada to remember the victims and to raise awareness of violence against women. In Charlottetown a crowd of women and men attended the vigil in front of the provincial government buildings. We stood together in solidarity in the frigid December night, our tears mingling with the wax dripping from the candles we held in our numb fingers.

In the immediate aftermath of the Montreal Massacre, we felt a tide of change. We believed that the time had come to collectively find the way to eliminate violence against women.

Every year since 1989 the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women has led a Purple Ribbon Campaign against Violence Against Women, beginning on November 25th. The campaign culminates with a Memorial Service on December 6th to remember the 14 women killed in the Montreal Massacre and the now 10 women on PEI who have been murdered by men since 1989. This year the theme for the Purple Ribbon Campaign is “Don’t stand by. Stand with. Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women.”

“Standing with” the women who have experienced gender-based violence means listening to them, believing them, and acting to assist them in getting the help they need. “Standing with” means that we discourage the misogyny that manifests itself through sexist jokes and derogatory language demeaning to women. “Standing with” may mean safely intervening if we witness or suspect acts of violence.

During the past year sexual violence against women has dominated the news headlines. Almost every day we learn about new accusations from women of sexual assault or sexual harassment or both by men. Most of the reports in the headlines are about political leaders, celebrities, movie moguls, comedians, news reporters, and other privileged and powerful men. Many of the men being accused have multiple victims who are now coming forward to name the perpetrators, often after decades of silence.

Recently, women were encouraged to “stand with” other women in solidarity by heading their messages with #metoo on Facebook, Twitter, or other social media to indicate that they, too, had been sexually assaulted or harassed by men in their lives. Within a few days, an astounding number of women and some men began their social media messages with #metoo. Some women described the incidents of sexual assault or harrassment they had experienced; others simply wrote #metoo.

The voices of all these women speaking the truth about sexual harassment and assault again feels like a moment of change, but it is only part of the answer. For real change to occur, we need to remember that everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women. Men, it is time for you to speak out loudly against gender violence and to work together to eliminate the misogyny and sexism that are the root of that violence. Boys have to learn from their male role models that there is no place for the “boy talk” that demeans and objectifies women. In PEI, the group ManUp has been formed by men to “stand with” Island women in the protest against violence against women. We applaud this and all efforts to prevent and eliminate violence.

Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women. Wear a purple ribbon during the Purple Ribbon Campaign. Listen, believe survivors, speak out against misogyny and violence against women. Act and be the change.

Mari Basiletti is the Chairperson of the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women.

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Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes

6 décembre 2017

Le 6 décembre 1989, quatorze étudiantes de l’École polytechnique de Montréal ont été tuées en raison de leur sexe. Dans les jours suivant le massacre de Montréal, on a tenu des vigiles partout au Canada pour commémorer les victimes et sensibiliser la population à la violence faite aux femmes. À Charlottetown, femmes et hommes se sont rassemblés devant les édifices du gouvernement provincial. Unis dans la solidarité, nous sommes restés debout par une nuit glaciale de décembre, chandelles allumées, larmes et cire coulant entre des doigts engourdis.

Immédiatement après le massacre, nous avons ressenti une vague de changement. Nous nous sommes dit qu’il était temps de trouver collectivement des moyens d’éliminer la violence envers les femmes.

Depuis 1989, le Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î.-P.-É. organise chaque année la Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence faite aux femmes. La campagne est lancée le 25 novembre et se termine le 6 décembre par un service tenu à la mémoire des quatorze femmes abattues lors du massacre de Montréal et des dix femmes qui ont été tuées par des hommes à l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard depuis 1989. Cette année, le thème de la Campagne du ruban violet est « N’en restez pas là. Soyez là. Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes. »

« Être là » pour les femmes qui ont été victimes de violence fondée sur le sexe, ça veut dire les écouter, les croire, les aider à obtenir le soutien dont elles ont besoin. « Être là », ça veut dire détourner la misogynie qui se manifeste dans les blagues sexistes et le langage dérogatoire qui rabaisse les femmes. « Être là », ça peut aussi vouloir dire intervenir de façon sécuritaire lorsque nous soupçonnons des actes de violence ou lorsque nous en sommes témoins.

Au cours de la dernière année, l’actualité a été dominée par la violence sexuelle envers les femmes. Nous apprenons presque quotidiennement de nouvelles accusations portées par des femmes qui ont été harcelées, agressées ou les deux par des hommes. La plupart des incidents rapportés dans les médias visent des leaders de la sphère politique, des célébrités, des nababs du cinéma, des humoristes, des journalistes et d’autres hommes privilégiés et puissants. Dans le cas de nombreux accusés, plus d’une victime se déclarent, et ce, souvent après des décennies de silence.

Récemment, on a encouragé les femmes à exprimer leur solidarité en ajoutant le mot-clic #moiaussi (#metoo en anglais) à leurs messages sur Facebook, Twitter et les autres médias sociaux pour indiquer qu’elles aussi ont été agressées ou harcelées par des hommes au cours de leur vie. En quelques jours, un nombre étourdissant de femmes, sans compter certains hommes, se servaient du mot-clic sur les médias sociaux. Certaines décrivaient leurs expériences d’agression ou de harcèlement sexuel, tandis que d’autres se limitaient au mot-clic, qui en dit déjà long.

Les voix de toutes ces femmes révélant la vérité sur les agressions et le harcèlement sexuels semblent de nouveau former un moment décisif du changement – mais il ne s’agit là qu’une partie de la réponse. Pour accomplir de réels progrès, nous devons garder en tête que tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes. Il est temps pour les hommes de dénoncer haut et fort la violence fondée sur le sexe et de travailler ensemble pour éliminer la misogynie et le sexisme qui en sont la source. Les garçons doivent apprendre de bons modèles masculins que les « propos entre gars » n’ont pas leur place lorsqu’ils rabaissent et objectivent les femmes. À l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard, des hommes ont créé le groupe ManUp pour appuyer les femmes insulaires dans leur lutte contre la violence. Nous applaudissons l’initiative et tous les autres efforts déployés pour prévenir et éliminer la violence.

Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes. Portez un ruban pendant la Campagne du ruban violet. Écoutez les survivantes et croyez-les. Intervenez et prenez position contre la misogynie et la violence faite aux femmes. Soyez le changement que vous souhaitez voir dans le monde.

Mari Basiletti préside le Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î. P. É.

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