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Everyone Has a Part to Play in Preventing Violence Against Women / Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes

Everyone Has a Part to Play in Preventing Violence Against Women

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December 6, 2017

On December 6, 1989, fourteen women who were students at École Polytechnique in Montreal were murdered because they were women. In the days following the Montreal Massacre, vigils were held across Canada to remember the victims and to raise awareness of violence against women. In Charlottetown a crowd of women and men attended the vigil in front of the provincial government buildings. We stood together in solidarity in the frigid December night, our tears mingling with the wax dripping from the candles we held in our numb fingers.

In the immediate aftermath of the Montreal Massacre, we felt a tide of change. We believed that the time had come to collectively find the way to eliminate violence against women.

Every year since 1989 the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women has led a Purple Ribbon Campaign against Violence Against Women, beginning on November 25th. The campaign culminates with a Memorial Service on December 6th to remember the 14 women killed in the Montreal Massacre and the now 10 women on PEI who have been murdered by men since 1989. This year the theme for the Purple Ribbon Campaign is “Don’t stand by. Stand with. Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women.”

“Standing with” the women who have experienced gender-based violence means listening to them, believing them, and acting to assist them in getting the help they need. “Standing with” means that we discourage the misogyny that manifests itself through sexist jokes and derogatory language demeaning to women. “Standing with” may mean safely intervening if we witness or suspect acts of violence.

During the past year sexual violence against women has dominated the news headlines. Almost every day we learn about new accusations from women of sexual assault or sexual harassment or both by men. Most of the reports in the headlines are about political leaders, celebrities, movie moguls, comedians, news reporters, and other privileged and powerful men. Many of the men being accused have multiple victims who are now coming forward to name the perpetrators, often after decades of silence.

Recently, women were encouraged to “stand with” other women in solidarity by heading their messages with #metoo on Facebook, Twitter, or other social media to indicate that they, too, had been sexually assaulted or harassed by men in their lives. Within a few days, an astounding number of women and some men began their social media messages with #metoo. Some women described the incidents of sexual assault or harrassment they had experienced; others simply wrote #metoo.

The voices of all these women speaking the truth about sexual harassment and assault again feels like a moment of change, but it is only part of the answer. For real change to occur, we need to remember that everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women. Men, it is time for you to speak out loudly against gender violence and to work together to eliminate the misogyny and sexism that are the root of that violence. Boys have to learn from their male role models that there is no place for the “boy talk” that demeans and objectifies women. In PEI, the group ManUp has been formed by men to “stand with” Island women in the protest against violence against women. We applaud this and all efforts to prevent and eliminate violence.

Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women. Wear a purple ribbon during the Purple Ribbon Campaign. Listen, believe survivors, speak out against misogyny and violence against women. Act and be the change.

Mari Basiletti is the Chairperson of the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women.

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Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes

6 décembre 2017

Le 6 décembre 1989, quatorze étudiantes de l’École polytechnique de Montréal ont été tuées en raison de leur sexe. Dans les jours suivant le massacre de Montréal, on a tenu des vigiles partout au Canada pour commémorer les victimes et sensibiliser la population à la violence faite aux femmes. À Charlottetown, femmes et hommes se sont rassemblés devant les édifices du gouvernement provincial. Unis dans la solidarité, nous sommes restés debout par une nuit glaciale de décembre, chandelles allumées, larmes et cire coulant entre des doigts engourdis.

Immédiatement après le massacre, nous avons ressenti une vague de changement. Nous nous sommes dit qu’il était temps de trouver collectivement des moyens d’éliminer la violence envers les femmes.

Depuis 1989, le Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î.-P.-É. organise chaque année la Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence faite aux femmes. La campagne est lancée le 25 novembre et se termine le 6 décembre par un service tenu à la mémoire des quatorze femmes abattues lors du massacre de Montréal et des dix femmes qui ont été tuées par des hommes à l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard depuis 1989. Cette année, le thème de la Campagne du ruban violet est « N’en restez pas là. Soyez là. Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes. »

« Être là » pour les femmes qui ont été victimes de violence fondée sur le sexe, ça veut dire les écouter, les croire, les aider à obtenir le soutien dont elles ont besoin. « Être là », ça veut dire détourner la misogynie qui se manifeste dans les blagues sexistes et le langage dérogatoire qui rabaisse les femmes. « Être là », ça peut aussi vouloir dire intervenir de façon sécuritaire lorsque nous soupçonnons des actes de violence ou lorsque nous en sommes témoins.

Au cours de la dernière année, l’actualité a été dominée par la violence sexuelle envers les femmes. Nous apprenons presque quotidiennement de nouvelles accusations portées par des femmes qui ont été harcelées, agressées ou les deux par des hommes. La plupart des incidents rapportés dans les médias visent des leaders de la sphère politique, des célébrités, des nababs du cinéma, des humoristes, des journalistes et d’autres hommes privilégiés et puissants. Dans le cas de nombreux accusés, plus d’une victime se déclarent, et ce, souvent après des décennies de silence.

Récemment, on a encouragé les femmes à exprimer leur solidarité en ajoutant le mot-clic #moiaussi (#metoo en anglais) à leurs messages sur Facebook, Twitter et les autres médias sociaux pour indiquer qu’elles aussi ont été agressées ou harcelées par des hommes au cours de leur vie. En quelques jours, un nombre étourdissant de femmes, sans compter certains hommes, se servaient du mot-clic sur les médias sociaux. Certaines décrivaient leurs expériences d’agression ou de harcèlement sexuel, tandis que d’autres se limitaient au mot-clic, qui en dit déjà long.

Les voix de toutes ces femmes révélant la vérité sur les agressions et le harcèlement sexuels semblent de nouveau former un moment décisif du changement – mais il ne s’agit là qu’une partie de la réponse. Pour accomplir de réels progrès, nous devons garder en tête que tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes. Il est temps pour les hommes de dénoncer haut et fort la violence fondée sur le sexe et de travailler ensemble pour éliminer la misogynie et le sexisme qui en sont la source. Les garçons doivent apprendre de bons modèles masculins que les « propos entre gars » n’ont pas leur place lorsqu’ils rabaissent et objectivent les femmes. À l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard, des hommes ont créé le groupe ManUp pour appuyer les femmes insulaires dans leur lutte contre la violence. Nous applaudissons l’initiative et tous les autres efforts déployés pour prévenir et éliminer la violence.

Tout le monde a un rôle à jouer pour prévenir la violence envers les femmes. Portez un ruban pendant la Campagne du ruban violet. Écoutez les survivantes et croyez-les. Intervenez et prenez position contre la misogynie et la violence faite aux femmes. Soyez le changement que vous souhaitez voir dans le monde.

Mari Basiletti préside le Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î. P. É.

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2017-2018 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Don’t stand by. Stand with. Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence (Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence) was initiated by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women in 1991 to remember the 14 women who were murdered at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal on December 6, 1989, and to raise awareness about violence against women.

Don’t stand by. Stand with. Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women. What does it mean to “stand with” people who experience violence? When we think of “bystanders” to violence we often think of witnesses, standing on the sidelines doing nothing. But what if everyone who witnessed bullying, abuse, or violence acted and intervened in some way to make a positive difference? Taking action when we see signs of violence is standing with the people who experience violence. Even small actions can make a difference. A small action could even save a life. With every action to help, together, we can build a community ready to take a stand against violence.

Six steps to taking action when we see signs of abuse or violence
1. Notice that something is happening
2. Recognize signs of abuse or violence in what is happening
3. Take responsibility for providing help
4. Assess safety: the victim’s, the aggressor’s, yours, and others’ nearby
5. Decide how to help in a way that keeps us and the people around us safe
6. Take action to help

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Memorial Services for Victims of Violence

December 6 is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women. On and around December 6, candle-lighting services remember 14 young Women who in 1989 were murdered because they were women in what became known as the Montreal Massacre.

We remember ten women since 1989 murdered on Prince Edward Island by men who knew them. Join others in your community to light a candle of remembrance, to remember, to reflect, and to act so these murders end.

First mourn, then work for change
We remember 1989

28 Years Since the Montreal Massacre 

CHARLOTTETOWN
12:00 noon, Wednesday, December 6
Memorial Hall, Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor)
Mi’kmaw ceremony & prayers: Elder Judy Clark & Julie Pellissier-Lush
Guest Speaker: Treena Smith
Music: Sylvia Abikhattar-Mutch & Peter Mutch
More info: 902-368-4510
PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

Candles will be lit in commemoration of the 14 women who were murdered in Montreal in 1989 and the 10 Island women who have died at the hands of violent men since that year.
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SUMMERSIDE
12:00 noon, Wednesday, December 6
Summerside Baptist Church
219 Church Street
More info: 902-436-9856
East Prince Women’s Information Centre


Teachers Resource Guide (Bilingual)
A Feature of the 2017 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Resource Guides
Handouts for Students / Documents à distribuer aux étudiants … PDF
Resources for Teachers / Ressources pour les enseignants … PDF
Resources to print on 11×17″ paper … PDF


Multilingual Poster

Don’t stand by. Stand with. Everyone has a part to play in ending violence against women.

This year’s multilingual 11×17” poster highlights the Purple Ribbon Campaign theme, “Don’t Stand By. Stand With.  Everyone has a part to play in preventing violence against women” in English, French, Mi’kmaq, Arabic, Farsi, Mandarin, Nepali, Korean, and Spanish. These represent the founding and most commonly spoken languages of our province. Thanks to JoDee Samuelson for adapting the bookmark image. Posters are available by request, or at http://www.gov.pe.ca/acsw.   Download printable multilingual poster.

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Bystander Infographic

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French

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Orientation Sheet, 2013, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women
Artwork:
“Seeds” by Mari Basiletti. This work was commissioned by and hangs in the waiting room of the PEI Rape and Sexual Assault Centre, Charlottetown.


Pinning Bee – Thursday, November 9, 2017

It’s the season of purple! Our 2017-18 Campaign theme focuses on the power of bystanders: Don’t stand by. Stand with. Everyone has a part to play in ending violence against women.

Be a part of the solution by speaking up and taking action when you see violence occurring or have concerns that someone may be harmed. Be a part of the solution by wearing a purple ribbon to show your support for women and girls and your commitment to ending gender-based violence. Be a part of the solution by joining others to pin ribbons which will be distributed to schools, community groups and individuals across PEI.

The annual pinning bee will be held Thursday, November 9, 2017 at 6:30 – 8:00pm at the Confederation Centre Public Library, 145 Richmond Street, Charlottetown.

To see a few photos from the Pinning Bee, click on this Facebook post link:
https://www.facebook.com/peistatusofwomen/posts/1509083672461528


December 6, 2017 Commentary … bilingual

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Thank You…

Thank you to the 2017 contributors to the Purple Ribbon Campaign for generous assistance. This list will be updated weekly, as contributors are confirmed:

  • Federated Women’s Institutes of PEI
  • Premier Wade MacLauchlan’s Office
  • City of Charlottetown
  • Confederation Centre of the Arts – Venue Sponsor
  • Premier’s Action Committee on Family Violence Prevention (PAC)
  • Judy Clark and Julie Pellissier-Lush, PEI Aboriginal Women’s Association
  • PEI Association for Newcomers translators
  • Members of the public who attended the Pinning Bee
  • JoDee Samuelson, for adapting the bookmark image
  • Staff at Anderson House, Family Violence Prevention Services (FVPS)
  • Kate, Karen, Irma, and Dan for their tremendous help with our Purple Ribbon mailout
  • Excel Accounting Services Inc.- mailout sponsor
  • Lynn MacNeil, Brandy and Conner Beasley, Debbie Langston, and Maribeth Rogers for assisting with collating and distributing purple ribbons and teachers’ guides
  • Joanne McNeary
  • Kara Katmouz, FVPS Outreach Coordinator, West Prince Region
  • Treena Smith, guest speaker
  • Sylvia Abikhattar-Mutch, soloist
  • Peter Mutch, cellist
  • Elders Julie Pellissier-Lush and Judy Clark, Mi’kmaw opening
  • Eileen LeClair, UPSE Silent Witnesses
  • Dawn Wilson
  • Michelle Buttery
  • Interministerial Women’s Secretariat and Hearts & Flowers
  • Advisory Council members
  • Paul Wood and Rob Warren
  • and the 27 candlelighters who participated in the Memorial Service

Photos

Volunteers helping with the annual Purple Ribbon Campaign mailout. Thanks to Kate, Karen, Irma, and Dan.

Volunteers helping with the annual Purple Ribbon Campaign mailout. Thanks to Kate, Karen, Irma, and Dan.

Volunteers at the Pinnng Bee at the Confederation Centre Public Library.

Pinning Bee volunteers keeping busy at the Pinning Bee at the Confederation Centre Public Library.

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Believe Survivors / Croyez la victime

Believe Survivors

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December 6, 2016

December has arrived – the time of year when we see the traditional red and green decorations everywhere in our communities. These are happy symbols of the festive holiday season now upon us. We also see people wearing small purple ribbons above their hearts on their winter coats – a sad symbol in remembrance of the fact of gender violence on Prince Edward Island.

2016-12-05-11_53_36-new-notificationThe PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women launched the 2016 Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence on November 25th, the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. The Campaign culminates in our Memorial Service on December 6th, the 27th anniversary of the Montreal Massacre. On that date we remember the 14 women who were murdered at the École Polytechnique in 1989 because they were women. Sadly, at our Annual Memorial Service we also remember the 10 women who have been murdered on PEI since 1989.

The statistics from Women in PEI 2015 show that in 2014-2015 women made up 85% of the victims of abuse cases, and 92% of the victims of sexual assault cases referred to Victim Services. Women have consistently made up at least 94% of the recipients of Emergency Protection Orders under PEI’s Victims of Family Violence Act. These statistics tell us that we need to continue our Purple Ribbon Campaign, and we need to increase our collective efforts to address the problem of male violence against women.

This year the theme of the Purple Ribbon Campaign is Believe Survivors. A survivor can be defined as “a person who carries on in spite of hardships or trauma.” There are many people in our society who have survived many hardships, including war and hunger, or hatred, isolation, and discrimination. Some Indigenous people in Canada have survived residential schools and their legacy; across Canada all Indigenous people have survived the historic trauma of policies and decisions that deny their worldview and that hurt them as a group. Some people have survived gender violence, family violence, sexual violence, emotional or psychological violence, or physical violence.

When someone who has survived trauma tells us about their ordeal, we need to listen to their story and we need to believe them. We do not need to doubt and question, we do not need to find proof. By listening and believing, we provide a safe place for them to share their traumatic memories. By listening and believing, we can reduce the sense of isolation the survivor may feel.

In Canada only a very low number of cases of violence against women are reported to police, and there are low rates of prosecution and conviction of the numbers that are reported. There is much that needs to be done to improve the response of our justice system to survivors of violence. But first we need to listen, and believe survivors.

The public is invited to attend the Memorial Service for Victims of Violence on Tuesday, December 6th, from 12:00 noon to 1 PM, in Memorial Hall, Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor) in Charlottetown.

Mari Basiletti, Chairperson
PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

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Croyez la victime

6 décembre 2016

Le mois de décembre est arrivé – c’est le temps de l’année où nos communautés sont décorées en rouge et vert, couleurs traditionnelles du temps des Fêtes. Ce sont des symboles festifs de la saison. Nous voyons aussi des gens porter un petit ruban violet près de leur coeur, épinglé sur leur manteau d’hiver – un triste symbole de la violence sexiste qui existe à l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard.

2016-12-05-11_53_36-new-notificationLe 25 novembre, Journée internationale pour l’élimination de la violence à l’égard des femmes, le Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î.-P.-É. a lancé sa Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence pour l’année 2016. Cette campagne se termine par notre service commémoratif le 6 décembre; il s’agira du 27e anniversaire du massacre de Montréal. Cette journée-là, nous nous souviendrons des 14 femmes qui ont été assassinées à l’École polytechnique en 1989 parce qu’elles étaient des femmes. Tristement, lors de notre service commémoratif, nous nous souviendrons aussi des 10 femmes qui ont été assassinées à l’Î.-P.-É. depuis 1989.

Les statistiques tirées de la publication Women in PEI 2015 démontrent qu’en 2014-2015, les femmes représentaient 85 % des victimes de violence et 92 % des victimes d’agression sexuelle orientées vers le Service d’aide aux victimes. Les femmes ont toujours représenté au moins 94·% des bénéficiaires d’ordonnances de protection d’urgence dans le cadre de la Victims of Family Violence Act (loi sur les victimes de violence familiale) de l’Î.-P.-É. Ces statistiques nous disent que nous devons poursuivre notre Campagne du ruban violet et que nous devons augmenter nos efforts collectifs pour aborder le problème de la violence des hommes contre les femmes.

Cette année, le thème de la Campagne du ruban violet est Croyez la victime. On peut décrire la victime comme étant « une personne qui poursuit sa vie malgré les difficultés ou les traumatismes qu’elle a pu vivre. » Bien des gens dans notre société ont enduré des épreuves, y compris la guerre, la faim, la haine, l’isolation et la discrimination. Certains peuples autochtones au Canada ont survécu aux pensionnats indiens ou sont affectés par l’héritage qu’ils ont laissé aux futures générations; tous les Autochtones du pays ont survécu au traumatisme historique des politiques et des décisions qui les ont privées de leur vision du monde et qui leur ont causé du tort en tant que groupe. Certaines personnes ont survécu à la violence axée sur les sexes, à la violence familiale, à la violence sexuelle, à la violence psychologique ou à la violence physique.

Lorsqu’une personne qui a survécu à un traumatisme nous raconte son épreuve, il faut écouter et croire. Il ne faut pas douter et questionner; il ne faut pas chercher des preuves. En l’écoutant et en la croyant, nous lui fournissons un endroit sécuritaire lui permettant de partager ses souvenirs traumatiques. Nous pouvons aussi atténuer son sentiment d’isolement.

Au Canada, très peu de cas de violence faite aux femmes sont signalés à la police, et les taux de poursuites et de condamnations découlant des cas qui sont signalés sont très bas. Il reste toujours beaucoup à faire afin d’améliorer les mesures d’intervention prises par la justice auprès des victimes de violence. D’abord, nous devons écouter et croire les victimes.

Le public est invité à assister au service commémoratif pour les victimes de violence le mardi 6 décembre de midi à 13 h dans la Salle commémorative du Centre des arts de la Confédération (commanditaire de la salle) à Charlottetown.

Mari Basiletti, la présidente
Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard

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Memorial Services for Victims of Violence

Believe survivors.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence (Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence) was initiated by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women in 1991 to remember the 14 women who were murdered at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal in December 1989, and to raise awareness about violence against women.

December 6 is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women. We remember fourteen young women who in 1989 were murdered because they were women in what became known as the Montreal Massacre. We remember ten women since 1989 murdered on Prince Edward Island by men who knew them. Join others in your community to light a candle of remembrance, to remember, to reflect, and to act so these murders end.

Charlottetown Memorial Service

12:00 Noon, Tuesday, December 6, 2016
Mi’kmaw welcome: Elder Judy Clark
Guest Speaker: Dima Mreesh
Special performance by KINLEY
Memorial Hall
Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor)
Charlottetown
More info: 902-368-4510, info@peistatusofwomen.ca, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

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Memorial Service Gallery Slideshow … link

  • December 6, 2016 – CBCNEWS PEI: ‘We have to keep reminding people:’ Montreal Massacre remembered in Charlottetown … link
  • December 6, 2016 – The Guardian: Charlottetown memorial remembers victims of violence against women … link

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Summerside Memorial Service

12:00 Noon, Tuesday, December 6, 2016
Summerside Presbyterian Church
130 Victoria Road
Summerside
More info: 902-436-9856, East Prince Women’s Information Centre

First mourn, then work for change
We remember 1989

27 Years since the Montreal Massacre 

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2016-2017 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Believe survivors.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence (Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence) was initiated by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women in 1991 to remember the 14 women who were murdered at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal on December 6, 1989, and to raise awareness about violence against women.

The purple ribbons and bookmarks are ready for distribution to communities, individuals and groups across PEI. This year, the image on our 2016 multilingual poster has been created by our very own Chairperson of the Council, Mari Basiletti, with technical assistance from her partner JoDee Samuelson. Together with the beautiful lettering and fonts of 9 languages, the message to believe those who have been harmed is simple and powerful. The Teachers Guide resources linked to the provincial curriculums for instructors and students will be ready for public use by mid-November. Contact the Status of Women if you’d like posters, purple ribbons, tattoos or any of the Teachers Guides materials: 902-368-4510 or info@peistatusofwomen.ca

We appreciate the nine Council members who currently represent Island women on the Advisory Council on the Status of Women. We are very pleased with the breadth of experience and skills brought by the women of our Council. Each one brings her particular perspective to the table, as well as that of her geographic community and her communities of choice. Each one is a strong individual – together they are a force of intellect, compassion and commitment that is remarkable.

We continue to appreciate our mutual, respectful relationship with the Aboriginal Women’s Association of PEI, whose members include all Island Indigenous women. We continue to learn about the realities of living as an Aboriginal woman in PEI, and strive to find meaningful ways to reconcile our shared history as settlers in Canada. We struggle as a nation to believe the survivors of residential schools and their children and grandchildren. The historic trauma of Canadian history has only begun to be addressed and repaired with the announcement of a national inquiry.

We give a shout out to Cheryl Tanton, Health and Physical Education Specialist for the provincial Department of Education. Cheryl has offered encouragement, advice and enthusiasm in collaborating on the Teachers Guide resources. We could not develop such engaging and useful materials for teachers and students without her input. Thank you Cheryl.

We also want to acknowledge the men of ManUp who have taken the initiative to support women working to end gender violence. They are taking responsibility for changing male behavior by actively addressing and discouraging male violence. The engagement and education of men and boys is critical for real change to be achieved. We are proud to work alongside you men.


December 6, 2016 Commentary, Believe Survivors by Chairperson Mari Basiletti
The Guardian, December 6, 2016 – Believe Survivors


Memorial Services for Victims of Violence

CHARLOTTETOWN
12:00 noon, Tuesday, December 6
Mi’kmaw welcome: Elder Judy Clark
Guest Speaker: Dima Mreesh
Special performance by KINLEY
Memorial Hall
Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor)
Charlottetown
More info: 902-368-4510
PEI Adv. Council on the Status of Women

Candles will be lit in commemoration of the 14 women who were murdered in Montreal in 1989 and the 10 Island women who have died at the hands of violent men since that year. Speakers and performers will share their perspectives on the theme of believing survivors. Believing sexual assault victims, believing Indigenous peoples in Canada who suffered cultural genocide, believing those violated and displaced by war around the globe, believing women who endure and minimize the daily experience of gender-based violence. We mourn women’s lives that have ended by violence. We listen, we believe, and we act to end violence against women and girls everywhere.

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SUMMERSIDE
12:00 noon, Tuesday, December 6
Summerside Presbyterian Church
130 Victoria Road
Summerside
More info: 902-436-9856
East Prince Women’s Information Centre


  • Join our lunchtime Purple Ribbon Pinning Bee, on Thursday, November 17, at 12:00pm at the Murphy’s Community Centre, 200 Richmond Street in Charlottetown. Meet our current Council women and help pin ribbons to bookmarks for distribution across PEI in November. Everyone Welcome.
  • On Friday, November 25, 2016, the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women will host a screening of Harmony Wagner’s film “Singing to Myself” at The Guild on 111 Queen Street. November 25 marks the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women and is also the launch of the Advisory Council’s Purple Ribbon Campaign, an annual effort to draw attention to gender violence on PEI.

    Time:

    4:00pm to 6:00pm
    (Note: A Social hosted by PEI ManUp will follow immediately afterwards)Location:
    The Guild, 111 Queen Street, Charlottetown, PEIThe Advisory Council is very pleased to support the work of Harmony Wagner, a talented local director and writer whose work is garnering increased respect and appreciation. Her film grapples with the sexual assault of a young deaf woman who decides to renounce the world, but whose plans are disrupted by the friendship of a precocious musician. Sophie MacLean plays Iris, the young deaf woman yearning to connect; Bryde MacLean plays Celeste, the musician who disrupts Iris’ life in complex and profound ways. It has been described by the Atlantic Film Festival as “an intimate gaze into the complexity and ease of female friendship.” The film contains some swearing and deals with mature subject matter, viewer discretion is advised. https://vimeo.com/182189212Before the film is shown, Status of Women Minister Paula Biggar will make remarks. Harmony Wagner will also be on hand to say a few words about her film and about being a filmmaker. Following the film screening, the men of PEI ManUp welcome attendees to walk in solidarity from The Guild to the Murphy Community Centre, 200 Richmond Street, for a social time at The Alley. All are very welcome to attend.
    Tickets for the film are available through The Guild Box office for $13 (including fees). Call 902-620-3333, toll free 1-866-774-0717, or purchase tickets online: http://www.theguildpei.com/box-office/
    Vimeo trailer: https://vimeo.com/182189212

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Teachers Resource Guide (Bilingual)
A Feature of the 2016 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Resource Guides
Handouts for Students / Documents à distribuer aux étudiants … PDF
Resources for Teachers / Ressources pour les enseignants … PDF


Orientation Sheet, 2013, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women
Artwork:
“Seeds” by Mari Basiletti. This work was commissioned by
and hangs in the waiting room of the PEI Rape and Sexual Assault Centre, Charlottetown.


Multilingual Poster

Believe survivors.

final-2016-multilingual-poster

Artwork: This year, the image on our 2016 multilingual poster has been created by our very own Chairperson of the Council, Mari Basiletti, with technical assistance from her partner JoDee Samuelson. Together with the beautiful lettering and fonts of 9 languages, the message to believe those who have been harmed is simple and powerful.
Translation | Traduction : Service de traduction du gouvernement de l’Î.-P.-É. (French), Thirly Levi (Mi’kmaq), Farahnaz Rezaei (Arabic & Farsi), Alex Yin (Mandarin Chinese), Krishna K. Thakur (Nepali), Steve Hwang (Korean), and Rocio McCallum (Spanish).  Download printable multilingual poster.


Thank you to the 2016 contributors to the Purple Ribbon Campaign for generous assistance. This list will be updated weekly, as contributors are confirmed:

  • Federated Women’s Institutes of PEI
  • Quilting B & More
  • Premier Wade MacLauchlan’s Office
  • City of Charlottetown
  • Confederation Centre of the Arts – Venue Sponsor
  • Premier’s Action Committee on Family Violence Prevention (PAC)
  • Aboriginal Women’s Association
  • Cheryl Tanton, Health/Physical Education Curriculum Specialist
  • PEI Association for Newcomers translators
  • Mari Basiletti, poster artwork
  • Staff at Anderson House, Family Violence Prevention Services (FVPS)
  • Members of the public who attended the Pinning Bee
  • PEI ManUp
  • Karen, Pat, Kate, and Dan for their tremendous help with our Purple Ribbon mailout
  • Excel Accounting Services Inc.- mailout sponsor
  • Megan Kelland, UPEI volunteer
  • Interministerial Women’s Secretariat – Memorial Service flowers
  • David Morrison, pianist
  • Kinley Dowling, performer
  • Dylan Menzie, guitarist
  • Dima Mreesh, guest speaker
  • Judy Clark, Mi’kmaq opening
  • Eliza Starchild Knockwood, honour song
  • Dawn Wilson
  • Amanda Beazley
  • Pam MacKinnon, UPSE Silent Witnesses
  • Advisory Council members
  • and more than two dozen candlelighters who participated in the Memorial Service

PHOTOS

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Pinning Bee special guest, Lori Anne.

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Volunteers helping with the annual Purple Ribbon Campaign mailout. Thanks to Pat, Kate, Karen, and Dan (missing from photo).

Volunteers helping with the annual Purple Ribbon Campaign mailout. Thanks to Pat, Kate, Karen, and Dan (missing from photo).

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A Bold Vision: Ethical Empowered Erotics and the Politics of Radical Consent

Dr. Colleen MacQuarrie is a past Chairperson of the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women. She was chair of the Council from 1992 to 1993. Colleen is a mother, a partner, a researcher, and a tireless advocate. She has worked for the Government of PEI in health and social services and now teaches in the Department of Psychology at the University of Prince Edward Island, where her research and teaching are always engaged with the community, embedded in participatory approaches, and focused on social justice. We are grateful that she is willing to examine complex and controversial topics, including women’s reproductive health. Colleen is a fierce advocate for consent and has worked alongside survivors of sexual assault and abuse. We were honoured to hear her comments at the Montreal Massacre Memorial Service.

The theme for the 2013 Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence is consent: “ASK. Sex without consent is a crime.” At the December 6, 2013, Montreal Massacre Memorial Service in Charlottetown, Colleen gave a speech about consent.

Good afternoon everyone. Thank you to the Advisory Council on the Status of Women and the many individuals and organizations who contributed to today’s action.

“First Mourn Then Work for Change”, this is the creed of every December 6. Each year, we gather as a community to commemorate this atrocity and to remind ourselves that the struggle to end violence over women is continual. Each year we renew our efforts to change the systems and structures that support and perpetuate woman abuse. We do this for ourselves and earnestly for our children and our grandchildren.

We have a bold vision. We envision a world where woman abuse is eradicated. Eradication means we root out the ways violence is upheld in abuses of power which are asserting power over another to control and to manipulate their lives. Power is not a thing to be eradicated but rather it is a central aspect of how humans interact. “Power Over” behaviours must be replaced by “Power With” behaviours. So let us embrace our power to transform our world. This year in keeping with the theme of consent, I want us to embark on a journey of embracing the ethical and the radical politics of consent.

How might we use our power for transformation in radical consent? First imagine that each of us has a space around our bodies where we are safe and no one may enter without invitation. Invitation is the operative word here. Next imagine that everyone else has their own safe space. Radical consent means we ask to be invited into their space and we honour with grace their needs. How does this become a bold vision and a system changer?

We can start with our children. The politics of radical consent sets the tone for how we interact with them and how we expect our children to honour their own personal space. For example, something I have witnessed repeatedly is children are asked to ‘give someone a hug – or a kiss- good bye.’ If the child shies away they may be admonished to comply. This teaches them to ignore their own interests and feelings. The politics of radical consent requires us to never coerce children to demonstrate affection. Pay attention. The next time you offer to hug a favorite small person and they show reluctance, practice ethical consent. Smile and gracefully give space to the next generation’s empowerment and change the world while you do so. Think of all the ways you can create ethical empowered interactions with children and model with them this bold vision for our future.

Now, I want you to journey with me to an adult space of radical consent and ethical empowered erotics. Moving the ethics of radical consent to adult power sharing, you may think it becomes more difficult in sexual encounters. In fact rape culture, encourages us to think it is more difficult. Part of rape culture is a pattern that makes excuses for rape. It is a culture in which the victim is blamed for his or her own assault because they “got drunk”, “should have known better”, or “didn’t say ‘no’ clearly enough”. It is a culture in which consent is thought to be a tricky thing, and in which people complain of mixed messages. This understanding of consent is not going to change the system. It only serves to reinforce problematic cultural norms. It also denies that there is a big difference between a reluctant agreement and an enthusiastic invitation. It denies the mutuality of intimacy.

Today I want to share a radical yet simple system changing idea, a bold vision. I am asking us to embark on a journey into the ethical erotics of consent where we are lovers who seek the bounds of our own desires in communion with other ethical eroticists. This is a politics that moves us beyond the staid “No means No” mantra of consent. It moves us to an ‘Only Yes means Yes’ erotic awareness. The yes, is a moment of invitation. The intimate space just before touch where the other is fully seen; the awe of a breath that asks for an invitation, may I kiss you, may I kiss you here? This is a dance of awareness with the other. You and your partner(s) in an intimate tango of asking and seeking permissions that deepens the experience because you not only wanted to, you also directed the action. You are a desiring subject in your own erotic encounter. Knowing that you are both doing exactly what you want, the way you want it. This is a mood enhancer, a game changer, and this is a bold vision.

Ethical empowered erotics links care of the self with care of the other in a mutual intimacy. For either to be missing or limited tips the balance from shared pleasure to dangerous sex either physically or emotionally. This then would be unethical, disempowering, and anti-erotic. Ethical empowered erotics is also about learning how to accept a refusal or withdrawal gracefully at any moment in your intimate tango.

I will leave you with The ABCs of Ethical Empowered Erotics:

A-Always ask for what you want,
B-Before any action, and always practice
C- Continual and constant consent through invitation.

If we practice the ABCs of Ethical Empowered Erotics with our adult lovers and practice the ethics of radical consent in all our relationships, especially with our children, then we are the game changers and this is our bold vision for eradicating violence. Thank you.

Colleen MacQuarrie, PhD. Associate Professor and Chair Psychology Department, UPEI.

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