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Bystanders Can Save Lives

PEI Family Violence Prevention Week, February 12 to 18, 2017, is focusing on what bystanders can do to help prevent and end violence. On December 6, 2016, at the Montreal Massacre Memorial Service in Charlottetown, PEI, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women Chairperson Mari Basiletti told her story of surviving an assault and having her life saved by a bystander’s intervention. Mari’s experience wasn’t family violence, but the bystander did not know this. Taking action as a bystander can save lives. Find out more about PEI’s Family Violence Prevention Week at stopfamilyviolence.pe.ca.

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2016 Memorial Service Gallery

The selection of photos below are from the December 6, 2016 Memorial Service for Victims of Violence held at the Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor). Thanks to everyone who attended the service and participated in the 2016 Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence.

We remember 1989
27 Years Since the Montreal Massacre

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  • December 6, 2016 – CBCNEWS PEI: ‘We have to keep reminding people:’ Montreal Massacre remembered in Charlottetown … link
  • December 6, 2016 – The Guardian: Charlottetown memorial remembers victims of violence against women … link

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Believe Survivors / Croyez la victime

Believe Survivors

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December 6, 2016

December has arrived – the time of year when we see the traditional red and green decorations everywhere in our communities. These are happy symbols of the festive holiday season now upon us. We also see people wearing small purple ribbons above their hearts on their winter coats – a sad symbol in remembrance of the fact of gender violence on Prince Edward Island.

2016-12-05-11_53_36-new-notificationThe PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women launched the 2016 Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence on November 25th, the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. The Campaign culminates in our Memorial Service on December 6th, the 27th anniversary of the Montreal Massacre. On that date we remember the 14 women who were murdered at the École Polytechnique in 1989 because they were women. Sadly, at our Annual Memorial Service we also remember the 10 women who have been murdered on PEI since 1989.

The statistics from Women in PEI 2015 show that in 2014-2015 women made up 85% of the victims of abuse cases, and 92% of the victims of sexual assault cases referred to Victim Services. Women have consistently made up at least 94% of the recipients of Emergency Protection Orders under PEI’s Victims of Family Violence Act. These statistics tell us that we need to continue our Purple Ribbon Campaign, and we need to increase our collective efforts to address the problem of male violence against women.

This year the theme of the Purple Ribbon Campaign is Believe Survivors. A survivor can be defined as “a person who carries on in spite of hardships or trauma.” There are many people in our society who have survived many hardships, including war and hunger, or hatred, isolation, and discrimination. Some Indigenous people in Canada have survived residential schools and their legacy; across Canada all Indigenous people have survived the historic trauma of policies and decisions that deny their worldview and that hurt them as a group. Some people have survived gender violence, family violence, sexual violence, emotional or psychological violence, or physical violence.

When someone who has survived trauma tells us about their ordeal, we need to listen to their story and we need to believe them. We do not need to doubt and question, we do not need to find proof. By listening and believing, we provide a safe place for them to share their traumatic memories. By listening and believing, we can reduce the sense of isolation the survivor may feel.

In Canada only a very low number of cases of violence against women are reported to police, and there are low rates of prosecution and conviction of the numbers that are reported. There is much that needs to be done to improve the response of our justice system to survivors of violence. But first we need to listen, and believe survivors.

The public is invited to attend the Memorial Service for Victims of Violence on Tuesday, December 6th, from 12:00 noon to 1 PM, in Memorial Hall, Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor) in Charlottetown.

Mari Basiletti, Chairperson
PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

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Croyez la victime

6 décembre 2016

Le mois de décembre est arrivé – c’est le temps de l’année où nos communautés sont décorées en rouge et vert, couleurs traditionnelles du temps des Fêtes. Ce sont des symboles festifs de la saison. Nous voyons aussi des gens porter un petit ruban violet près de leur coeur, épinglé sur leur manteau d’hiver – un triste symbole de la violence sexiste qui existe à l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard.

2016-12-05-11_53_36-new-notificationLe 25 novembre, Journée internationale pour l’élimination de la violence à l’égard des femmes, le Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Î.-P.-É. a lancé sa Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence pour l’année 2016. Cette campagne se termine par notre service commémoratif le 6 décembre; il s’agira du 27e anniversaire du massacre de Montréal. Cette journée-là, nous nous souviendrons des 14 femmes qui ont été assassinées à l’École polytechnique en 1989 parce qu’elles étaient des femmes. Tristement, lors de notre service commémoratif, nous nous souviendrons aussi des 10 femmes qui ont été assassinées à l’Î.-P.-É. depuis 1989.

Les statistiques tirées de la publication Women in PEI 2015 démontrent qu’en 2014-2015, les femmes représentaient 85 % des victimes de violence et 92 % des victimes d’agression sexuelle orientées vers le Service d’aide aux victimes. Les femmes ont toujours représenté au moins 94·% des bénéficiaires d’ordonnances de protection d’urgence dans le cadre de la Victims of Family Violence Act (loi sur les victimes de violence familiale) de l’Î.-P.-É. Ces statistiques nous disent que nous devons poursuivre notre Campagne du ruban violet et que nous devons augmenter nos efforts collectifs pour aborder le problème de la violence des hommes contre les femmes.

Cette année, le thème de la Campagne du ruban violet est Croyez la victime. On peut décrire la victime comme étant « une personne qui poursuit sa vie malgré les difficultés ou les traumatismes qu’elle a pu vivre. » Bien des gens dans notre société ont enduré des épreuves, y compris la guerre, la faim, la haine, l’isolation et la discrimination. Certains peuples autochtones au Canada ont survécu aux pensionnats indiens ou sont affectés par l’héritage qu’ils ont laissé aux futures générations; tous les Autochtones du pays ont survécu au traumatisme historique des politiques et des décisions qui les ont privées de leur vision du monde et qui leur ont causé du tort en tant que groupe. Certaines personnes ont survécu à la violence axée sur les sexes, à la violence familiale, à la violence sexuelle, à la violence psychologique ou à la violence physique.

Lorsqu’une personne qui a survécu à un traumatisme nous raconte son épreuve, il faut écouter et croire. Il ne faut pas douter et questionner; il ne faut pas chercher des preuves. En l’écoutant et en la croyant, nous lui fournissons un endroit sécuritaire lui permettant de partager ses souvenirs traumatiques. Nous pouvons aussi atténuer son sentiment d’isolement.

Au Canada, très peu de cas de violence faite aux femmes sont signalés à la police, et les taux de poursuites et de condamnations découlant des cas qui sont signalés sont très bas. Il reste toujours beaucoup à faire afin d’améliorer les mesures d’intervention prises par la justice auprès des victimes de violence. D’abord, nous devons écouter et croire les victimes.

Le public est invité à assister au service commémoratif pour les victimes de violence le mardi 6 décembre de midi à 13 h dans la Salle commémorative du Centre des arts de la Confédération (commanditaire de la salle) à Charlottetown.

Mari Basiletti, la présidente
Conseil consultatif sur la situation de la femme de l’Île-du-Prince-Édouard

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Memorial Services for Victims of Violence

Believe survivors.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence (Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence) was initiated by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women in 1991 to remember the 14 women who were murdered at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal in December 1989, and to raise awareness about violence against women.

December 6 is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women. We remember fourteen young women who in 1989 were murdered because they were women in what became known as the Montreal Massacre. We remember ten women since 1989 murdered on Prince Edward Island by men who knew them. Join others in your community to light a candle of remembrance, to remember, to reflect, and to act so these murders end.

Charlottetown Memorial Service

12:00 Noon, Tuesday, December 6, 2016
Mi’kmaw welcome: Elder Judy Clark
Guest Speaker: Dima Mreesh
Special performance by KINLEY
Memorial Hall
Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor)
Charlottetown
More info: 902-368-4510, info@peistatusofwomen.ca, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women

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Memorial Service Gallery Slideshow … link

  • December 6, 2016 – CBCNEWS PEI: ‘We have to keep reminding people:’ Montreal Massacre remembered in Charlottetown … link
  • December 6, 2016 – The Guardian: Charlottetown memorial remembers victims of violence against women … link

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Summerside Memorial Service

12:00 Noon, Tuesday, December 6, 2016
Summerside Presbyterian Church
130 Victoria Road
Summerside
More info: 902-436-9856, East Prince Women’s Information Centre

First mourn, then work for change
We remember 1989

27 Years since the Montreal Massacre 

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2016-2017 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Believe survivors.

The Purple Ribbon Campaign Against Violence (Campagne du ruban violet contre la violence) was initiated by the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women in 1991 to remember the 14 women who were murdered at L’École Polytechnique in Montreal on December 6, 1989, and to raise awareness about violence against women.

The purple ribbons and bookmarks are ready for distribution to communities, individuals and groups across PEI. This year, the image on our 2016 multilingual poster has been created by our very own Chairperson of the Council, Mari Basiletti, with technical assistance from her partner JoDee Samuelson. Together with the beautiful lettering and fonts of 9 languages, the message to believe those who have been harmed is simple and powerful. The Teachers Guide resources linked to the provincial curriculums for instructors and students will be ready for public use by mid-November. Contact the Status of Women if you’d like posters, purple ribbons, tattoos or any of the Teachers Guides materials: 902-368-4510 or info@peistatusofwomen.ca

We appreciate the nine Council members who currently represent Island women on the Advisory Council on the Status of Women. We are very pleased with the breadth of experience and skills brought by the women of our Council. Each one brings her particular perspective to the table, as well as that of her geographic community and her communities of choice. Each one is a strong individual – together they are a force of intellect, compassion and commitment that is remarkable.

We continue to appreciate our mutual, respectful relationship with the Aboriginal Women’s Association of PEI, whose members include all Island Indigenous women. We continue to learn about the realities of living as an Aboriginal woman in PEI, and strive to find meaningful ways to reconcile our shared history as settlers in Canada. We struggle as a nation to believe the survivors of residential schools and their children and grandchildren. The historic trauma of Canadian history has only begun to be addressed and repaired with the announcement of a national inquiry.

We give a shout out to Cheryl Tanton, Health and Physical Education Specialist for the provincial Department of Education. Cheryl has offered encouragement, advice and enthusiasm in collaborating on the Teachers Guide resources. We could not develop such engaging and useful materials for teachers and students without her input. Thank you Cheryl.

We also want to acknowledge the men of ManUp who have taken the initiative to support women working to end gender violence. They are taking responsibility for changing male behavior by actively addressing and discouraging male violence. The engagement and education of men and boys is critical for real change to be achieved. We are proud to work alongside you men.


December 6, 2016 Commentary, Believe Survivors by Chairperson Mari Basiletti
The Guardian, December 6, 2016 – Believe Survivors


Memorial Services for Victims of Violence

CHARLOTTETOWN
12:00 noon, Tuesday, December 6
Mi’kmaw welcome: Elder Judy Clark
Guest Speaker: Dima Mreesh
Special performance by KINLEY
Memorial Hall
Confederation Centre of the Arts (venue sponsor)
Charlottetown
More info: 902-368-4510
PEI Adv. Council on the Status of Women

Candles will be lit in commemoration of the 14 women who were murdered in Montreal in 1989 and the 10 Island women who have died at the hands of violent men since that year. Speakers and performers will share their perspectives on the theme of believing survivors. Believing sexual assault victims, believing Indigenous peoples in Canada who suffered cultural genocide, believing those violated and displaced by war around the globe, believing women who endure and minimize the daily experience of gender-based violence. We mourn women’s lives that have ended by violence. We listen, we believe, and we act to end violence against women and girls everywhere.

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SUMMERSIDE
12:00 noon, Tuesday, December 6
Summerside Presbyterian Church
130 Victoria Road
Summerside
More info: 902-436-9856
East Prince Women’s Information Centre


  • Join our lunchtime Purple Ribbon Pinning Bee, on Thursday, November 17, at 12:00pm at the Murphy’s Community Centre, 200 Richmond Street in Charlottetown. Meet our current Council women and help pin ribbons to bookmarks for distribution across PEI in November. Everyone Welcome.
  • On Friday, November 25, 2016, the PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women will host a screening of Harmony Wagner’s film “Singing to Myself” at The Guild on 111 Queen Street. November 25 marks the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women and is also the launch of the Advisory Council’s Purple Ribbon Campaign, an annual effort to draw attention to gender violence on PEI.

    Time:

    4:00pm to 6:00pm
    (Note: A Social hosted by PEI ManUp will follow immediately afterwards)Location:
    The Guild, 111 Queen Street, Charlottetown, PEIThe Advisory Council is very pleased to support the work of Harmony Wagner, a talented local director and writer whose work is garnering increased respect and appreciation. Her film grapples with the sexual assault of a young deaf woman who decides to renounce the world, but whose plans are disrupted by the friendship of a precocious musician. Sophie MacLean plays Iris, the young deaf woman yearning to connect; Bryde MacLean plays Celeste, the musician who disrupts Iris’ life in complex and profound ways. It has been described by the Atlantic Film Festival as “an intimate gaze into the complexity and ease of female friendship.” The film contains some swearing and deals with mature subject matter, viewer discretion is advised. https://vimeo.com/182189212Before the film is shown, Status of Women Minister Paula Biggar will make remarks. Harmony Wagner will also be on hand to say a few words about her film and about being a filmmaker. Following the film screening, the men of PEI ManUp welcome attendees to walk in solidarity from The Guild to the Murphy Community Centre, 200 Richmond Street, for a social time at The Alley. All are very welcome to attend.
    Tickets for the film are available through The Guild Box office for $13 (including fees). Call 902-620-3333, toll free 1-866-774-0717, or purchase tickets online: http://www.theguildpei.com/box-office/
    Vimeo trailer: https://vimeo.com/182189212

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Teachers Resource Guide (Bilingual)
A Feature of the 2016 Purple Ribbon Campaign

Resource Guides
Handouts for Students / Documents à distribuer aux étudiants … PDF
Resources for Teachers / Ressources pour les enseignants … PDF


Orientation Sheet, 2013, PEI Advisory Council on the Status of Women
Artwork:
“Seeds” by Mari Basiletti. This work was commissioned by
and hangs in the waiting room of the PEI Rape and Sexual Assault Centre, Charlottetown.


Multilingual Poster

Believe survivors.

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Artwork: This year, the image on our 2016 multilingual poster has been created by our very own Chairperson of the Council, Mari Basiletti, with technical assistance from her partner JoDee Samuelson. Together with the beautiful lettering and fonts of 9 languages, the message to believe those who have been harmed is simple and powerful.
Translation | Traduction : Service de traduction du gouvernement de l’Î.-P.-É. (French), Thirly Levi (Mi’kmaq), Farahnaz Rezaei (Arabic & Farsi), Alex Yin (Mandarin Chinese), Krishna K. Thakur (Nepali), Steve Hwang (Korean), and Rocio McCallum (Spanish).  Download printable multilingual poster.


Thank you to the 2016 contributors to the Purple Ribbon Campaign for generous assistance. This list will be updated weekly, as contributors are confirmed:

  • Federated Women’s Institutes of PEI
  • Quilting B & More
  • Premier Wade MacLauchlan’s Office
  • City of Charlottetown
  • Confederation Centre of the Arts – Venue Sponsor
  • Premier’s Action Committee on Family Violence Prevention (PAC)
  • Aboriginal Women’s Association
  • Cheryl Tanton, Health/Physical Education Curriculum Specialist
  • PEI Association for Newcomers translators
  • Mari Basiletti, poster artwork
  • Staff at Anderson House, Family Violence Prevention Services (FVPS)
  • Members of the public who attended the Pinning Bee
  • PEI ManUp
  • Karen, Pat, Kate, and Dan for their tremendous help with our Purple Ribbon mailout
  • Excel Accounting Services Inc.- mailout sponsor
  • Megan Kelland, UPEI volunteer
  • Interministerial Women’s Secretariat – Memorial Service flowers
  • David Morrison, pianist
  • Kinley Dowling, performer
  • Dylan Menzie, guitarist
  • Dima Mreesh, guest speaker
  • Judy Clark, Mi’kmaq opening
  • Eliza Starchild Knockwood, honour song
  • Dawn Wilson
  • Amanda Beazley
  • Pam MacKinnon, UPSE Silent Witnesses
  • Advisory Council members
  • and more than two dozen candlelighters who participated in the Memorial Service

PHOTOS

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Pinning Bee special guest, Lori Anne.

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Volunteers helping with the annual Purple Ribbon Campaign mailout. Thanks to Pat, Kate, Karen, and Dan (missing from photo).

Volunteers helping with the annual Purple Ribbon Campaign mailout. Thanks to Pat, Kate, Karen, and Dan (missing from photo).

Click for more on past Purple Ribbon Campaigns.

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